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Mocking Our Neighbor

by Julie Clawson 03-23-2009

Last week Eugene Cho posted his thoughts on how it hurt him and his children when people, especially celebrities, do the slanty-eye thing mocking Asians. His post was simple — basically “hey people, that’s offensive, stop doing it.” One would kinda hope that we are way past the making-fun-of-other-people-because-of-their-race thing, but no such luck as the subsequent conversation displayed.

Reading the comments there was a bit disturbing. I somewhat expected the comments that told Eugene he was overreacting, but I was unprepared for the number of people defending mocking others. Some of them weren’t even saying that the gesture isn’t offensive, but that they know it’s offensive and mocking and that’s okay. Or as one guy commented, “I’m not racist, but I do enjoy my ethnic jokes.”

What sort of messed-up world do we live in where our entertainment serves as justification for hurting others? Okay, I’m not naive, and I realize that there is nothing new about it, but I just can’t wrap my mind around Christians defending the practice of making fun of people, much less how God created people to be. I don’t care if it happens all the time, just think about that concept. Instead of loving our neighbor (and enemy), we are destroying them for a moment’s entertainment. We think it’s funny to tear down the image of God in others, and then claim it is our right to continue to do so. Does anyone else see the utter absurdity there?

Growing up missing a limb had me at the butt of many jokes. Kids in elementary school found it amusing to tell “stump” jokes to my face. They were almost as popular as the Helen Keller jokes mocking deaf people. And I’m sure we are all familiar with current phrases and jokes that mock women and gays. It is a strange thing to have someone make fun of you, and then insist that their right to be entertained by hurting you is more important than your feelings and identity. And that their right is more important than the command to love our neighbor. I just don’t get it.  As a child I was too unsure of myself to stand up to those kids and tell them that their jokes weren’t funny.  Sad thing is — none of the other kids, teachers, or parents sent that message either.  So the jokes continued.

I think it’s sad that when guys like Eugene say “please stop making fun of my family,” people (Christians!) get mad at him.  There seems to be a huge failure of love happening here.  So what do you think needs to be done to change things? Are churches working to change this or are they part of the problem? How can the body of Christ learn to love so much that we can’t fathom mocking the other, much less defending our right to do so?

Julie Clawson is the author of the forthcoming book Everyday Justice (IVP 2009).  She blogs at julieclawson.com and emergingwomen.us.

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  • Nathan Bedford
    "Not saying you were doing that of course, Marie, just going off on my own tangent. :)"

    No, I wasn't doing that. In my view, those who continue to use terms that they know are offensive to other people are rude. I have a hearing disability, but it offends me when people say (in my presence) that I am deaf.
  • Unlike what I once thought growing up, I have learned in experience that Christians can often be the most despicable of people. We are not better than others; we just recognize our need for God.
  • JamesM
    Yeah, probably an outright ban of the person would be a more appropriate sanction than just deleting the comment.
  • MikePC
    I'm not entirely sure I even understand what you're trying to say here nuclearferret. Your comment is a tad obscure, but maybe I'm just dense.

    Nonetheless, I think it might be helpful to distinguish, as BuckeyeDon did, between legal/political "rights", and our "responsibilities" as followers of Jesus. As American citizens we might have a legal "right" to say whatever we want no matter whom it offends. I don't think anyone here is suggesting that we make racial jokes illegal. However, as Christians we may have fewer "rights" than we do as Americans, since we hold ourselves to a higher standard of love & respect for others. I would think we'd want to self-limit our own "freedom of speech" in order to avoid hurting others.

    As the Apostle Paul said, "All things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial."
  • squeaky
    I don't really understand what you are arguing--it doesn't seem to square with your comment on Cho's post. Could you clarify? Are you arguing that the racial jokes are no big deal because they are just jokes? Or are you arguing that they are a big deal, especially to the person who is the brunt of them?
  • kevin47
    Were some of the comments deleted? Mine was, but I think it was because I insulted Miley's boyfriend.

    At present, I don't see anyone getting mad at Eugene on that thread. One person wonders why Eugene responded with the photo as he did, which is reasonable even if it misses the point.
  • BuckeyeDon
    YOU are the one who doesn't get it.

    It's called respect, nuclearferret. I don't see a lot of that in your comment here. It's also called knowing one's neighbors and loving them as Jesus taught us to do. Sure, our American system conveys the right to "enjoy" jokes at the expense of others, but that doesn't mean it's the appropriate (read: loving, respectful) thing to do.

    The tone of your response here makes me wonder if you might have been one of those kids on the playground that enjoyed picking on kids who weren't exactly like you. Like Julie, I was also badgered a lot when I was in school, though for different reasons. Like Julie, I also wasn't self-assured enough to stand up for myself. I don't think those who did the picking-on ever realized the long-term hurt they caused. Do you understand the long-term hurt that the kinds of gestures Julie and Eugene are talking about cause?
  • nuclearferret
    You really don't get it, as far as people being able to identify a difference?

    Not that state churches are beneficial, either, but in an American system that draws a very keen line between the church and state, there is by all means a "right" to enjoy in jokes of virtually any kind. Some of it goes on by Christians. Just as some Christians believe it is their right to literally destroy life because of a past moment of entertainment. When a society separates out the church and faith from critical life and death issues, it has already made it clear that it wouldn't care about an ethnic joke.

    Any progress on the issue of doing away with this in the future will have nothing to do with religion; it will simply because of some vague feeling it isn't nice. At least until there is some new characteristic or difference to take advantage of.
  • MikePC
    Speaking of "PC", it annoys me how often that term is used as a red-herring to avoid having to consider how one's words might actually be hurtful to others. I wish folks who mock these sort of things as just "liberal political-correctness" would realize that being concerned about these issues is not motivated by "politics" but by a desire to love our neighbors.

    Not saying you were doing that of course, Marie, just going off on my own tangent. :)
  • joiningtheconversation
    Oh, Julie. I hurt when I read that. I am so sorry for your pain. Grace and peace to you.

    I missed the blog from last week (vacation), or I likely would have commented. How can we behave this way? Painful to think about.

    We have work to do. And I think we need to work that our own sanctification would immune us from such disgraceful comments/ justifications/ judgements. We shold hurt at the *mention* of the hurt of another. True compassion and mercy have no place for such hurtful comments (or thoughts). True humanity has no place for this.

    Sometimes I wonder how it is that follow the author of grace and mercy and yet we eat each other alive. Grace and peace to us all, and may we work to love better- all of us.
  • Nathan Bedford
    Common sense should govern our words and our actions, but there are times when we fail to live up to that standard. If we know that the Confederate flag will offend our African American friends, then we should refrain from flying it at our homes or displaying it on our vehicles. When we become aware that naming our athletic teams and mascots after Native Americans, common sense should dictate alternative names. We should not automatically assume that a person who is overweight is a glutton who never made an attempt to control his weight. I think that we are more sensitive to the racist generalizations than we were 50 years ago, and while some may attribute the more civilized language as PC, I believe the discourse has improved.
  • I come from a family where teasing one another is simply assumed, though in the past five years I've learned that it's very, very easy to cross lines and hurt people. I've been surprised to see how the "jokes" of others have really stung myself. I think a lot of jokes are made utilizing a kernel of truth and then twisting it. So someone may use a Polish joke on me, but I can't help wondering if they really do think I'm stupid in some way...

    It is far too easy to hurt others, and as such repentance needs to be a natural reflex for us. Thanks for discussing this important topic.
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