RSS
More Feeds












God's Politics

A Child’s Prayer and a Parent’s Predicament

by Edward Gilbreath 11-04-2009

A Facebook friend sent me a link to a wonderful YouTube video. The clip, which apparently has now gone viral with over 366,000 views so far, captures 3-year-old Hannah as she recites a freestyle prayer before bedtime. Her exhausted dad rests on the bed beside her while her mom records the proceedings and offers a running supply of “Amens” and “Hallelujahs” and “That’s right, Hannahs” from behind the camera.

The video starts off as one of those sweet little things that you see on YouTube (you know, like the little girl quoting a mashed-up version of the Twenty-Third Psalm or the little boy awaking from an anesthesia-induced fog following a visit to the dentist). But after a couple minutes, you realize that Hannah is not your ordinary precocious 3-year-old; this little girl is an evangelist-in-the-making who is literally preaching her bedtime prayer. Clearly, the child is speaking out of an anointing of the Holy Spirit — and I’m not one to casually throw around statements like that. This child is on fire!

Check out the video below.

After watching the clip, I was truly moved. But then I clicked through to YouTube and noticed some of the viewers’ comments. Most of the viewers were as awestruck as I was. Here’s a few of their comments:

WOW! The Bible says train up a child; I applaud this mom and dad and say” Well done.

Jesus asked us to come to Him with childlike faith. Hannah is a great example of this! You can tell she believes everything she’s saying with her WHOLE heart! We should all be like that. Keep praising Jesus, Hannah! Don’t ever let age take away your PASSION!!

God’s word and praise from the mouth of a baby! Praise God for Hannah!

This is amazing!! It’s always great to see the results of parents raising their children up with the Lord in their life. we need more kids around like this and then maybe things like Columbine wouldn’t happen. Keep up the good work with your daughter!!

But then I began to notice a string of comments from viewers who were disturbed by Hannah’s prayer. They felt her behavior was evidence of brainwashing and of her parents pushing their religion on an impressionable young child. At least one compared it to abuse. Some examples:

I passionately oppose religious brainwashing on children… THIS IS CHILD ABUSE AND BRAINWASHING POOR KID.

The only thing this video is proof of is behavioral modification….normally referred to as brainwashing. It’s what cultists and Islamic Madrasas do to create the kind of unthinking obedience necessary to martyrdom. This kind of thing is disgusting and abusive. A child this age has no conception of what the words she is saying even mean.

This is not to down nobodies religion as I was raised a Christian…. What I DO have a problem with is fundamentalist thinking those want to convert others ESPICALY YOUNG CHILDREN into their cult. Im disturbed by this.

The kid doesn’t understand anything more than the feedback she’s getting from Mom. You can get a kid to recite the quotations of Chairman Mao like this. This is how the Taliban programs future martyrs. It’s ugly, unthinking nonsense.

I was dumbfounded. I’ve heard these types of arguments before, but as I watched that little girl share from a heart that was obviously overflowing with God’s Word and wonderful values from her parents that had stuck, it never crossed my mind that this little girl was being programmed to parrot her parents’ narrow-minded beliefs. Her faith looks real to me. She owns it.

At the same time, a child does not embrace a faith like that without the ongoing nurturing and encouragement and prayers of her parents, grandparents, Sunday School teachers, etc. After all, as Christians, isn’t it our job to pass along these values to the next generation?

But can we, as Christian parents, ever cross the line? There are certainly stories of children who have been indoctrinated into religious or ideological beliefs that have been damaging to their young psyches. I think of the news reports I’ve watched of little children who are growing up under the firm hand of white supremacist parents, or children who are being raised under the influence of any number of cult-like movements.

Then there are parents who raise their children under the religion of money, fame, and commerce. I think of little Falcon Heene being pimped out by his parents for the promise of a reality-TV show and driven to the point of vomiting on live television.

Or what about Marcus Jordan, the son of Michael Jordan?

Marcus, a freshman at the University of Central Florida, is currently causing his new school all sorts of grief with his insistence that he will be wearing his dad’s brand of Nike shoes during games rather than the Adidas brand that the college’s athletic teams are contractually required to wear. So far, UCF has been scrambling to accommodate its famous freshman (and that potentially lucrative link to his famous dad) while trying not to jeopardize its $3 million agreement with Adidas.

I love Michael Jordan the ballplayer, but I can’t help thinking Michael Jordan the dad has apparently raised a son to believe that consumer marketing and product placement and Nike brand loyalty are more important values than humility and team unity and honoring the obligations of his athletic scholarship. As Orlando Magic center Dwight Howard (who is a Christian) has said, “If you’re going to be on the team, you have to do what the team asks you to do.” You would think Marcus’s dad would be dispensing that same type of advice.

Or, how about the Ohio teenager from a strict Muslim family who ran away from home after converting to Christianity because she claims her father threatened to kill her for becoming a Christian? After seeking refuge at a Christian couple’s home in Florida, a judge ruled that the girl must be returned to Ohio. Yikes!

Parenting is no easy task these days — and neither is being a kid. There are so many dangers, toils, and snares — gray areas that will trip up even the most well-intentioned, well-prepared folks who have read all of Dobson’s books.

Having spent the last nearly ten years raising little people — or, perhaps more accurately, helping my wife raise them (just kidding) — I sincerely have to salute parents who are able to instill an enthusiastic faith and passion for God into their children. This, I believe, is one of the most important jobs in the world. As Chris Rock has said, “Sometimes I look at my daughter … and I realize my only job in life is to keep her off the pole!” [Here’s the YouTube clip of Rock; beware of his explicit language.]

Anyhow, back to little Hannah’s prayer. I’m curious to know what you folks out there think about the video and the criticism that this 3-year-old girl is somehow being brainwashed or abused by her parents because she demonstrates such a strong and ardent faith in God. Should we rejoice or be concerned?

portrait-edward-gilbreathEdward Gilbreath is director of editorial for Urban Ministries Inc., editor of UrbanFaith.com, and the author of Reconciliation Blues: A Black Evangelical’s Inside View of White Christianity. He blogs at Reconciliation Blog.

Categories: Theology
Share or bookmark this post:
  • email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • del.icio.us
  • Digg
  • Google Bookmarks
  • Mixx
  • NewsVine
  • Reddit
  • StumbleUpon
  • Technorati
  • Yahoo! Bookmarks
advertisement


Comment Code of Conduct

I will express myself with civility, courtesy, and respect for every member of the Sojourners online community, especially toward those with whom I disagree—even if I feel disrespected by them. (Romans 12:17-21)

I will express my disagreements with other community members' ideas without insulting, mocking, or slandering them personally. (Matthew 5:22)

I will not exaggerate others' beliefs nor make unfounded prejudicial assumptions based on labels, categories, or stereotypes. I will always extend the benefit of the doubt. (Ephesians 4:29)

I will hold others accountable by clicking "report" on comments that violate these principles, based not on what ideas are expressed but on how they're expressed. (2 Thessalonians 3:13-15)

I understand that comments reported as abusive are reviewed by Sojourners staff and are subject to removal. Repeat offenders will be blocked from making further comments. (Proverbs 18:7)

  • Dolfan
    I think it's great that this child is praying like this at that age and hope she carries this with her throughout her life. As for the people on you tube who think this is brainwashing or abuse, this is one of the most nonsensical statements I have heard in a while. Once in college I heard a student in class (a Christian too supposedly) say that they would not teach their child about any religion but let them make up their own mind when they are an adult. Huh??

    When you have dinner, will you let your child choose between good nutrious food and something containing poison? Will you let them choose to walk across the freeway? No, because you want to protect them physically and emotionally. It follows you also want to protect them spiritually. If you are a Christian, then obviously you believe Christianity to be the truth, so you naturally would want to pass that spiritual heritage onto your children.

    People who say it's abuse have no idea what abuse really is and is an insult to those who really have been abused. People who say it's brainwashing don't stop to think that all parents instill their own values into their children. Parents who are Jews, Muslims or atheists are going to raise their children the way they believe is correct, so why is it so hard to believe that Christians will also?

    I told my daughter about Jesus the very day she was born. Even though she did not understand at the time, I wanted her early years to be filled with all that is Godly. Now she is five years old and can pray, sing Bible songs and recite scriptures on her own. I'm very proud of her and the spiritual progress she has made.
  • moosmeister
    Wow. Its really easy to see both sides of the aisle in this one. This young girl is clearly a sharp kid- she seems to have an uncanny ability to articulate the viewpoint that she has been taught, especially at that age. That said, it doesn't appear to me to be "authentic"- she appears to be mimicking something she has learned (and the emotions that go along with it) rather than something that she truly feels inside. I sometimes see this in my own four year old as he mimicks, copies, and learns from my wife and I. Its textbook childhood development.

    The real test for these parents will be in the coming years when the words she is articulating now become engrained in her conscience. In other words- will the words that she is saying now be something that she truly understands and transforms into daily practice as she grows older?

    For those who tend towards the "repelled" side of things, I say have some patience and see where this child goes in the coming years- its too soon to tell whether this is "programming" or simple mimicking.

    For those who think that this is is wonderful- a good way to bring up a Christian child, I'd offer words of caution as well- its easy to recite a prayer and not internalize it. Lots of us have done it in church on Sunday morning as our minds become distracted from the service. Its easy to say words, even as adults, and not mean them. Three year olds live in concrete, fixed worlds without much transcendence. My hope would be that this little girl is able to transcend the words she is saying now into meaningful action as she grows up. Moreover- that she actually believes and understands the full meaning of the words she is reciting, and lives them out.
  • Rdiaz02
    Brother Edward, I would ask those that consider this brain-washing to then use the same reasoning with children who are too little to spell their own names but can accurate pronounce and use profanity. Are parents brain-washing these children? And to call it child abuse trivializes the real scars of an abused child. And comparing it to the training of the Taliban...come-on. This child is praying that she stop biting her nails and that her grandfather feel better. In a society that promotes so many negative things, the prayer of a child should not be what causes us outrage and dismay.
  • Bless_da_Lord
    Well said, calledme!
  • calledme
    I've been parenting for 30 years -- my span the age line from 30 to 6. The kids have all had church as a part of their lives; the older ones are doing their own thing and the younger ones are still deciding. It's been important to me that, before entering the world as young adults and before deciding what beliefs they choose as the foundations for their lives, they at least be informed about the faith that underlies everything that we, as parents, are committed to. Then they have a starting place. I have found that God calls them in their own right and I can't make them choose whether or not to take the call.

    At the same time, I can't teach or lead them to Christian faith without working for my whole life to grow and deepen my own relationship with Christ. To at least some extent I'm responsible for what they carry into adulthood through the example I've set. The older I get, the more I find myself saying, "I'm sorry" when I know I've screwed up, and praising God and them when they find "a lost coin" and celebrating themselves.

    Others may disagree, but there is no hatred or arrogance in the faith we follow. If they at least learn to reject those, then something good has worked itself into their lives -- hopefully, permanently.
  • Train up a child in the way [s]he should go,
    Even when [s]he is old [s]he will not depart from it.


    That really means, however, "Don't force your kid into your mold."
  • Bless_da_Lord
    Thank you for your insightful commentary, Edward. You are right! Parenting is such a HUGE responsibility. If we claim to love the Lord, we should be showing unconditional love to our children and we should be sharing the Gospel in our own families. We must not feel shameful about this. Would people have gotten upset or thought this little girl was being abused/brainwashed if she were reciting Shakespeare? Something to ponder.

    I couldn't agree with this more:
    "I sincerely have to salute parents who are able to instill an enthusiastic faith and passion for God into their children. This, I believe, is one of the most important jobs in the world."

    PROVERBS: Train up a child in the way [s]he should go,
    Even when [s]he is old [s]he will not depart from it.
blog comments powered by Disqus
click here for comments tech support
advertise here
  • MOST VIEWED
  • MOST COMMENTED
  • MOST RECENT
advertise here
advertise here
advertise here
advertise here


HOME | SUBSCRIBE | DONATE | TAKE ACTION | MAGAZINE  
SOJOMAIL | BLOGS | MEDIA | EVENTS | RESOURCES | ABOUT US  
Sojourners | 3333 14th Street NW, Suite 200 | Washington, DC 20010  
Phone 202.328.8842 | Fax 202.328.8757 | sojourners@sojo.net  
Unless otherwise noted, all material © Sojourners 2008